I like this. I have two brothers who rarely take part in the family connections. Do you think men aren't very well trained to do this? Just curious. BTW, I use my driving time to connect with people. Whenever I'm in the car, I call someone (bluetooth!) or use Siri to send a a few texts. Pandemic has caused all of us to get out of the habit of seeing people in person.... but on the plus side I feel NO compunction to hug everyone I see when I see them!
Hey Igor, my friend Punit recommended this article, so here I am :) This is a very well written, thought provoking piece, and captures the essence of the world we are living in. I had read some time ago, that this is the fastest that we as humans have disbanded ever since we know humanity to exist - and the rate of disbanding is alarming, especially for a species which is social and which thrives on being part of "tribe(s)". This has of course created the loneliness pandemic too - research suggests that the lonelier one is, the more likely that their social connections become a distant blur, and this becomes a vicious cycle. In essence, lonelier people over time lose the ability to reach out and start new social interactions, and I think, it must then be the less lonely who need to come to the rescue :)
I"m not so sure it's lack of caring. I think we need to prioritize people in our lives -- children and partners come first, then other family, then...? You also have work, work affliations, household chores, emergencies, and so on, and there is only so much time in the day.
I agree more with the "pick up where we left off" idea -- many friends you can just continue the same conversation you had weeks or months ago.
Everyone's in the same boat. Everyone gets it. We don't have the time for all the social interactions that we'd like.
I don't know how to explain how much I relate to this. This is one of those pieces of writing that I collect in a special bookmark folder that I periodically visit to feel inspired and gain perspective. Thank you for this wonderful piece of writing, Igor!
I like this. I have two brothers who rarely take part in the family connections. Do you think men aren't very well trained to do this? Just curious. BTW, I use my driving time to connect with people. Whenever I'm in the car, I call someone (bluetooth!) or use Siri to send a a few texts. Pandemic has caused all of us to get out of the habit of seeing people in person.... but on the plus side I feel NO compunction to hug everyone I see when I see them!
Hey Igor, my friend Punit recommended this article, so here I am :) This is a very well written, thought provoking piece, and captures the essence of the world we are living in. I had read some time ago, that this is the fastest that we as humans have disbanded ever since we know humanity to exist - and the rate of disbanding is alarming, especially for a species which is social and which thrives on being part of "tribe(s)". This has of course created the loneliness pandemic too - research suggests that the lonelier one is, the more likely that their social connections become a distant blur, and this becomes a vicious cycle. In essence, lonelier people over time lose the ability to reach out and start new social interactions, and I think, it must then be the less lonely who need to come to the rescue :)
Great insights, Igor!
I"m not so sure it's lack of caring. I think we need to prioritize people in our lives -- children and partners come first, then other family, then...? You also have work, work affliations, household chores, emergencies, and so on, and there is only so much time in the day.
I agree more with the "pick up where we left off" idea -- many friends you can just continue the same conversation you had weeks or months ago.
Everyone's in the same boat. Everyone gets it. We don't have the time for all the social interactions that we'd like.
~Graham
PS - thanks for the shoutout!
I don't know how to explain how much I relate to this. This is one of those pieces of writing that I collect in a special bookmark folder that I periodically visit to feel inspired and gain perspective. Thank you for this wonderful piece of writing, Igor!
So good! And thank you for sharing my newsletter <3
Great food for thoughts Igor! I am from the school that if a relationship doesn’t make me feel energized then it needs to go!